Bitch Mode: Are You On It Too Often?

Every single girl on the planet has a bitch mode. Whether it's public or behind doors, ya'll got one! I've got a fantastic bitch mode that when unleashed I can do some pretty good damage.

Yeah, real inner vibrance stuff.

But seriously, that's the thing about being human (& female) we are never going to be "perfect", we have maaaany gorgeous flaws and from time to time we will switch on bitch mode just for the hell of it or spend a little more than a day in it....

I hit a bit of a wall recently and it really got me to ponder my bitch mode and whether it's healthy that I'm dwelling in it too much. Obviously it's a fat NO IT'S NOT HEALTHY but when you're tied all up in it, it can get hard to remember that it's not.

Being negative is addictive, it can make you forget who you are and it can turn you into a monster. If you dwell in it for way too long, negativity can strip away the good stuff, it can ruin relationships, it can decrease your quality of life, it can seriously mess up your health and basically make your existence insignificant.

Kinda scary when you think about it like that huh?

Please don't stress if you've just realized you are too negative. Most people are more negative than they realize but just so you know, there is a place for everything and every feeling. Negativity has it's place and it is okay to feel it every now and then. It's actually quite delicious to have a good bitch about something so when you do milk the shit out of it.

Your real test and training lies in whether you get back out of it or whether you decide to dwell in it.

Sometimes I'll get into a certain headspace and it is so. damn. fucking. hard. to break out of it. I swear sometimes I just want to be pissed off with the world because if I'm too happy there's nothing to complain/worry/get negative about.

But what I've learned from this is that when you are feeling negative and you are SO in bitch mode, you've forgotten about yourself. You focus on everything outside of you, what you can't control, what others are doing, who said what, and what isn't going right.

The best way I've found to get out of the bitch mode is to switch your attention onto yourself and what you're doing. You kinda have to be selfish, go inward and seek inner guidance until you break out of that negativity zone.

Start doing the things you want to do, focus on you and the cool things that surround you that you love. You kind of have to forget everybody for now and do you. Keep doing your self love rituals and fall back on the things that make you feel good. It doesn't actually take all that long to snap out it it, it's how you react when it creeps back up - cause it will.

So my darling, are you on bitch mode too often? And if so, what are some steps you're going to take to hop out of negativity zone? Or, do you have any extra wisdom to share on breaking out of bitch mode?


Elise xo

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