Sunday Reads #13: Bullying, stamps and ADD

Aug 19, 2014


Happy Belated Sunday!

What a full on weekend, we had birthday dinners, engagement parties, guardians of the galaxy, a family roast and a day of shopping with Scotty. We're a little bit pooped.

  1. 13 death defying photos

  2. furniture for cats

  3. great advice on bing called a nerd from Will Wheaton

  4. on having ideas: start with your brand

  5. how to carve your own stamps

  6. 10 really easy ways to love yourself more

  7. how to spread positivity through social media

  8. 3 important things learned from having ADD

  9. Robin William's last video to a New Zealander :(

  10. pros and con's of dating a disney prince

xo

A Weird Birthday

Aug 15, 2014

A Weird Birthday (AKA How the year of firsts began)

Yesterday was my birthday.

It was full of delightful moments, over-flowing champagne, joyful company and a shittone of gifts. The day was magnanimous to say the least. I am completely tickled pink with joy.

That's what you're supposed to say right?

I'm gonna level with you - it wasn't anything like that at all.

You generally have a ritual of how your birthday begins. For me it's being woken with a stolen kiss and a whispered "Happy Birthday my love.." while having gifts lovingly laid by my side. Then it's a 7:30am birthday call from Mum, a delicious breakfast cooked by my love followed by texts, messages and calls from loved ones wishing me a beautiful day.

NONE OF THAT HAPPENED.

Scott went to work at 5:45am, Mum facebooked me happy birthday not wanting to wake me on the phone, I opened my presents by myself, had to go to a meeting, no one at work wished me happy birthday - or even knew it was my birthday - and everyone I came across was in an 'off' mood.

It was a blow to the ego that's for sure.

All that kept running through my mind was, "This f**king sucks".

I wanted to escape to a new reality where I had a beautiful party to host with my favourite people, and a dessert table adorned with pretty decorations. I imagined waltzing off to the beach where we spent hours splashing around, soaking up the sun, sipping cocktails and eating food that was made for the gods.

It felt good to escape for those few minutes, it felt fresh and new and fun - and that's when it hit me square between the eyes.

It felt good because it felt new.

"That's it!" I thought to myself, I've been so (unconsciously) stuck in the same place for quite a number of months now, nothing new has happened. In other words, I haven't been growing.

I immediately course-corrected my attitude, because I knew what I needed to do. Life is about growth and change and sometimes we get stuck because it's comfortable or because it freaks us out to do things differently.

I'm not saying everything will change in a matter of minutes, but there's 365 days to go till my next birthday and I'm going to make it a magical year of firsts, or, a year of growth.

And once I made my mind up, it was like everything slotted into place. I arrived home after work with my favourite people waiting for me, we snuck off to get vietnamese, watched our childhood classics, Jumanji and Space Jam, gobbled french birthday cake and trumpets.

None of it is what usually pans out on my birthday, it was all brand new, the perfect start to an exciting purposeful year.

Bring on the year of firsts!

xo

What's your unspoken relationship rule?

Aug 12, 2014

What's your unspoken relationship rule?

One thing I love about us is we instinctively know when we need to step up for each other.

Like for instance, the other day - oh, who am I kidding - yesterday, it was the day from hell. All my plans and ideas shattered to smithereens - and all before lunch time might I add. I was so defeated, like a 7-year-old who just lost his 10th consecutive little league game. I just wanted to nail all the doors in my house shut, blind the light beaming into my room and hide under the sheets until the day was surely gone.

I moped and even added in a flood of tears for dramatic effect. I was relishing my victim mode. But no matter how much I tried to stay a victim, I couldn't.

Why?

Because Scott and I have an unspoken rule, that when one is spiralling downwards, the other becomes the strength to lead them back up.

So he picked me up off the bed (literally picked me up like I was 7-years-old), wiped away my tears, gave me a loving pep talk, helped me problem solve and instilled the courage within me that I needed to face this day.

Because in a relationship, sometimes you've gotta be the parent, the teacher, the therapist, the tough guy and the one that leads the way (even if you don't actually know the way).

I love this about us.


What's your unspoken relationship rule? Do you have one? Does it make your relationship stronger?

xo

Sunday Reads #12: Birthday's, Kids & Business Plans

Aug 11, 2014


After a mega birthday week for Scotty, it's time to salute the festivities and say our goodbyes. Because this week? It's MY birthday week!! HELL YES. Have I planned something spectacularly stupendous for the celebration of my 26th year??? HELL NO. I am an un-organisational wreck, and if I'm honest, I see this day floating by just like any other. Yet I have a feeling I'll be a little more flush with goodies - which I'm tooootally okay with.

  1. My kids see me for what I am.

  2. 5 habits that are wrecking your metabolism.

  3. The most beautiful gift a mother could give her brand new daughter.

  4. For those of you who are bloggers, the next time someone puts down your choice to strive to create a new living for yourself or worse, assumes you're just some lazy ass on facebook all day - recite this to them.

  5. Create your blog business plan like a champ.

  6. 12 guilt free desserts.

  7. Do you forget to focus on your goals?

  8. Peanut butter cookie ice cream recipe!!!

  9. How to travel in style on a budget.

  10. 32 popular blog post ideas.

Happy Birthday Scott!

Aug 5, 2014


Ice skating & not-so-secret attempts to pull you down with me.

Wrestle matches between the couch & the coffee table.

Cocktails in the pool under the stars.

Midnight renditions of bohemian rhapsody.

Crazy tag with tea towels around the house.

Disturbing people at the airport with manic laughter.

Accidentally seriously injuring one another.

Mock waltzing in the kitchen while cooking dinner.

Tears wiped away.

Kisses given (and stolen).

I love you’s said.

Surprise chocolates.

Lost tram tickets.

Weekend gym sessions.

Hockey games.

Family visits.

Pointless (and serious) arguments.

Rayman origins.

Naughty Skype chats.

Yawn rapes.

Love notes.

"You light me up inside, like the 4th of July. Whenever you're around I always seem to smile. And people ask me how, well you're the reason why I'm dancing in the mirror and singing in the shower."

This is it. Our life together. And it has nothing to do with whether it’s “perfect” or not, and everything to do with the person I’ve spent the last three and a half years of my life with.

And that being the case? I’d do it all over again. Happy 28th birthday babe.

xo