How To Stop Feeling Broke

Jul 3, 2015

I had been dreading this weekend for over a month.

"Do I have to go? I don't want to. I can't afford it. But it's her birthday. I have to go."

To the world, I was the lucky bitch taking an "extended holiday" back home, galavanting all over the land, back and forth to the city.

And I worked hard to keep that as the perception.

Because if they found out the truth - that I'd actually moved back in with my Mother to build an online business with only $80 to my name - they'd disown me solely for my stupidity.

I came up with an array of excuses of why I couldn't go, but no matter what I did, this birthday weekend was still happening. And I was still going. And I was stone cold bitter about it.

The weekend came and went. 

I didn't have some major epiphany that you're supposed to when you're desperation mode, I didn't enjoy myself because I spent the entire time worried about my spending, and I spent my $80 which made my stomach stir.

Those were good times. Really.

Sometimes we can't help the situations we find ourselves in.

Whether a maintenance bill unbeknownst to you flopped into your lap and wiped you out till next payday.

Or you got caught up in the '60% off' Nordstrom sale. 

Or you invested in a business course and now you don't have enough money to pay your rent this week.

It can leave you (dirt) broke.

But it's not about what your situation is. It's about how you feel.

And when you feel broke, that's the danger zone.

How to Stop Feeling Broke

This is an exercise that on the surface looks stupidly simple. But if you do it properly, you wind up feeling so much better (and not broke) instantly.

1. What in your life already makes you feel abundant?

List every single thing in your life that makes you feel abundant already. Is it your car? Your relationship? Your job? House? Health? Go deep into specifics. What in that particular area of your life makes you feel abundant? Drill down even further. Why does it make you feel abundant?

2. What are some small income generating actions you can take today?

I've got your first easy action step, Join The 100k Experiment, and start manifesting your first 100k for free. You could declutter your wardrobe and sell your clothes, promote an affiliate product you love on your website or run a few discovery calls and book your next client. Get creative and think abstractly.

Remember, you have to have the mental shift first (exercise #1) before the go on to the second exercise. If you do, it will be much easier to take those actions without resistance to bring money in.

Side Note: Honestly, you can't do this exercise when you're deep in scarcity. You have to do it when you're a little less resistant, say after you've had a nap, been for a walk or when your energy is elevated. Coffee anyone?

Now I want to hear from you:

What are your tricks to get yourself out of feeling broke? Is there an exercise you go through or do you just let the feelings run their course?

Elise x

How to Manifest Money (like a boss)

Jun 25, 2015

How to Manifest Money

I remember very vividly back in 2010 sitting on the floor of my bedroom feeling helpless, irritated and disappointed that I had no money for the umpteenth time.

It wasn't like I was incapable of making money and keeping it. I had many periods throughout my life where there was an abundance of money, where I was able to save $250 a week, where I could afford to go out to dinner with friends, take regular holidays, pay my bills and still have cash in the bank.

I knew The Secret, I knew the principles of the Law of Attraction, I visualized as hard as humanly possible and yet I was still broke, still complaining about the same things, still living in my shitty apartment and working in a soul-sucking job.

Which is why I was so frustrated, because it obviously wasn't from a lack of opportunities or "smarts". The only difference that I could come up with between the broke years and the abundant years was my frame of mind.

It wasn't until I figured out the 6 core steps to manifesting money (and anything you want in life actually) that it was then that my "luck" started turning around big time.

When I started practising the 6 steps, it's like the floodgates opened for me.

Within a month I had manifested:

  • A $10,000 trip to New York to meet Taylor Swift
  • $300 worth of gift vouchers
  • Brand new clothes & electronics worth $500
  • My old job back without interviewing (money is money, right?)
  • A boyfriend! (not money related, but 5 years later I'm still with the guy!)

To be a "money magnet" as they say (so lame), you have to stick to a formula. Like with any freakin' thing you want to achieve, you have a process that you undergo to achieve it. No matter what you do. Think marathon runners vs. couch potatoes. Unlikely opponents but they both have their own 'recipe' for being successful in their "industry".

The 6 Steps to Manifesting Money

Figure out what riches you actually desire: 
You have to know how much you want, the actual desire. Yeah, we all wanna win lotto and buy the All Blacks (or is that just me?), but that's the equivalent of wishing for smaller thighs while chowing down on a cream donut. Get very specific of what you want and write it down.

Have a real & honest purpose for why you want it:
 Unfortunately it's not enough to know how much money you want to manifest, you need to know why you want it. What's the purpose of it? Also write down what you need the money for, where it's going and the cost of the things you want. Money needs a purpose, just like Chris Pratt's chiseled gorgeousness needs eyes to oogle it. *drooooooool*

Form a crystal clear vision of your desire in your mind: Have a very clear, very specific mental picture of what it is you want. Be clear and express that picture to the universe: Visualize. You are like a compass. North is your desire and so you follow that, if you don't focus on your desire the needle spins randomly never getting you to your destination. Be clear and hold on to your thought!

Using the daily practice of gratitude & appreciation: Using gratitude and appreciation is really about seeking harmony with the universe. When you express gratitude, it's increasing whatever it's being directed at. Love for your family, your friends, your personal items, your future etc. Get into a daily practise of gratitude and you will start noticing changes from day one.

Take inspired action that's congruent with your desire: Most people think of action in terms of things you can do to progress yourself, but there's also an element of action you need to take to being what you need to progress yourself. Think on what you can do NOW to get you closer to what you desire for the future. Hold the thought of what you want with purpose and faith, but act now. If you start to doubt, step back and refine your vision and faith. Never hurry. To get you started, I run an experiment where you can practise one small daily action step to help you manifest your first 100k. It's totally free.

Become an energetic match to your action: This is where most people get tripped up because they want what they want without making any changes. Having more money is a positive thing for you right? But where are you energetically? Negative? Desperate? Blah? In that state you're not an energetic match to the money. You have to bring yourself up, and others around you (because it helps your manifesting mojo) and be the positivity, the good vibes, the warm fuzzies that the money is for you. It's about being congruent, because you can't be pissed off about not having money and feel good about wishing for it at the same time. You need to have the image of wealth in your mind with the feeling of joy in your heart.

Let's Recap That:

You have a desire to manifest more money in your life because of a purpose, and you express this through visualization and gratitude which gives you faith to take inspired action that's congruent with your desire.

It really is that simple. If you need help to start off with, join The 100k Experiment. It's extremely easy; you do it once a day, you start manifesting money right away and it's totally free. We humans like to complicate things, but when it comes to manifesting it's best to keep it simple. ;-)

Leave a comment below and tell me how much you'd like to manifest and for what purpose? Dream big!

Elise x

P.S - 39 money affirmations

Free Printable: The Happiness Schedule

May 3, 2015

Happiness, I believe, belongs to those who define it. Because without stating precisely what it means to you, it becomes an elusive esoteric god-like feature that only the special among us ever get to taste.

Because even if you had it sitting right there in your sweaty little lap, you wouldn't see it. Because you'll already be looking for the next "thing" to make you happy.

But when you define it as clear as the Mediterranean sea - it's yours for the taking.

Happiness is really simple if you let it be. So for now while your complexly beautiful infuriating mind is off calculating how many lattes you need to stop drinking and thank you's you need to start saying. Just start here.

Because this is happiness and it's most simplistic.

(Click image to enlarge & save to desktop)

Save it as your desktop wallpaper, pin it to one of your boards on pinterest or share it on twitter and facebook. Let this be a reminder of how simple happiness can be.

Elise xo

Live your dream

Mar 25, 2015

Most of us go through life pretending that we don’t have any special goals or ambitions or desires when really deep down inside we do really want more. 

We block ourselves and we use these words almost like we’re in a trance, like we’re sleep-walking through life, that we find ways to cancel out our dreams, that a lot of things that we want to do, a lot of places we would like to go, a lot of things we would like to experience, and we just stop at "but."

But will cause you to hide out behind fear, but will cause you to come up with all types of excuses that you can validate your inaction and not acting on your dream. ”But” is a dream-killer.

But most people, you know what they do? Most people go through life quietly and safely tiptoeing to an early grave. 

We’ve been holding back, we have ideas we that don’t act on, things that we want to do, we’re afraid to take chances. A lot of people say no to things and they don’t even know what they’re saying no to! Don’t allow but to keep you in the corner.

A lot of people say, “But I tried once,” or “twice,” “and it didn’t work out,” and so they use that as an excuse not to ever come out again. Even if things don’t work out, even if I experience defeat or failure, that does not make me a failure. There’s a difference between failing and being a failure.

If things don’t work out, if you don’t produce the results you want, that’s all, but don’t confuse who you are with the results that you produce. Do what you can where you are with what you have, and never be satisfied. 

Yeah, don’t get satisfied with yourself. Always know that wherever you are, you can enjoy more, that you deserve more. Why don’t you decide now that you can expand your world, that if other people can learn you can learn, too.

If you’re working on you dream, sure they’re gonna be times when you’re gonna want to give up, sure there will be times when life will knock you down and catch you on the blind side, but the challenge is to hold on.

And if you hold on tenaciously, I say the universe is on your side. If you don’t decide to act on your dream, if you don’t decide to make a decision to live your life, if you don’t decide to step into your fears, if you don’t decide to say yes to your life, it will never work for you. You’ve got to live what’s in life, life is too short and unpredictable.

But what do we say? ”But there will always be tomorrow.” Oh, no. There’s no guarantees that you’re gonna show up tomorrow. Always something there, the reason you can’t move on, the reason why you can’t grow to the next level, why you can’t being to manifest your greatness, why you can’t begin to live life on your terms, that you’re gonna say “it’s not worth it.”

Yes, that’s going to be right there for you, it’s going to be in your face, telling you to go back. So if you want to do something, if you’ve thought about something you want to do, take it head-on. Life will never be the same.

Live your dream.

5 Tips For Happiness In Your Workplace

Mar 12, 2015

5 Tips For Happiness In Your Workplace

In my teens having a job was really about surviving city life - and being able to afford a ridiculous party addiction. In my early twenties it was about exploring industries, figuring out my passions, trial and error. Now that I'm in my - gulp - mid twenties, it's all about 'Am I going to be happy here?'.

Because what is the point of renting out 80% of your life to a place that you have panic attacks about attending every single day?

After all, being a stay-at-home-whatever isn't a luxury for the middle class anymore.

Yuck, I know.

So what if you're not happy in your workplace, and as much as you'd like to be dramatic and resign tomorrow, you can't leave?

This is what you do.

1 // create a game plan

If quitting by the end of today is off the table, unfortunately - and I do hate saying this because these exact words are what my mother told me, and swallowing them was like downing a shot of car battery fluid mixed with razor blades and salt - you have to change how you feel about your workplace.

What worked like a charm for me was producing a game plan. A simple month-by-month type of game plan.

For instance, this month make a project to crush your previous monthly sales history or to arrive at work 10 minutes earlier than your start time. Next month try up-skilling your product knowledge or make an effort to learn more about another colleague you're not that close to yet.

It is a known fact that if you have more purpose for something, you're more likely to create more feelings of engagement and enjoyment.

2 // design a happy work space

Those who sit at a desk, I don't know what's up with you shifty folks but you never seem to do anything with your space. Where's the photos, the magazines, the organised mess, the personality, the arrangement, where's the soul of you?

We do better when we're surrounded by colours, visuals or objects that inspire us. It's a security thing. If you surround yourself with things that make you feel more comfortable, work becomes easier, you feel safer, more open, more cheerful.

Embellish your desk with colour, photos, quotes and glitter. Sprinkle you, all around the office. Get chummy with those colleagues who look like they're good people to hang around with.

3 // make friends

When Scott had been working at his gym for a few months, I got really envious of the friendships he was building there. I loved being a Nanny, but I yearned to socialize, crack jokes, act stupid and chit-chat with adults again. I missed being part of a team.

Making friendships is one of the most important things about creating a happy workplace environment. You bond over menial stuff that only you really understand, you band together when shit gets interesting (A.K.A soul-destroying). Sometimes, the work-friendship crosses over into life-friendship. You never know what could happen!

You automatically gravitate towards the people who match you in personality. Get to know those people. After all, you do spend almost every day with them. They'll make it worth your while.

4 // spice up your lunch breaks

Are you guilty of doing the same thing every lunch break? Are you eating the same food as yesterday, txting your BFF complaining about your day or sitting in the exact same spot?

That was me several years ago. Meatball sub, cosmo magazine and the cold, damp staff room that would make your hair raise on the back of your neck every time a breeze floated by. Blegh.

Changing up your lunch breaks instantly gives you more zest to make it through the rest of your day.

For one whole week, try doing something different when you have your lunch break each day. Go for a walk, sit outside in the sun, go shopping, visit an art gallery, have a lunch date, go swimming, have lunch with a colleague, check a book out at the library or have a nap!

5 // avoid them haters

Haters gonna hate. No matter where you go, there will always be a parade of negative people taunting you to join the dark side.

They could be complaining about the boss one moment and the next they're bitching about you behind your back. Avoid them like the plague. Otherwise, that happiness you crave so much to have at your workplace, is never going to exist.

Bottom line: Stay away from gossip and unhappy people - and if you're one of them, fight for your happiness every. single. day.



P.S - 21 self-love affirmations.
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